When you hear that phrase, does it bring to mind how frustrated you feel with avoiding summer get-togethers for fear of ending up feeling and looking like a wet dog?
Or waking up in the middle of the night drenched in a pool of sweat and having to take a shower, change the sheets, and take what feels like hours to fall back to sleep again?
Or never knowing what to wear because you never know for sure when your next “flash” will come on?
If this sounds like you, you’re not alone.
You, like so many other women, spend what can really be some of the best years of your life struggling with these and other symptoms related to “the change”.
And it’s not just the hot flashes either. As if they aren’t enough, there is also the weight gain, the mood swings, the brain fog, the fatigue. And your libido? That seems to be completely hijacked as well.
You may find yourself asking, “where did my normal body go, and when is it coming back??”.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Like I said, this is truly a time in your life that can be the best yet - and it can get even better from here.
I get it.
But just because most women seem to be struggling with pesky, annoying symptoms that have them feeling anything but hot at this stage in life, or battling feeling awful with no end in sight, doesn’t mean you have to.
You can redefine “feeling hot” for yourself again - something much closer to how you felt in your 20's and 30’s.
“Hot” is not about looking a certain way, being a certain weight or size, or looking like the latest cover of the Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition.
“Hot” is an attitude.
It is about being turned on to yourself and turned on to life and all that it has to offer.
It is all about how you feel and how you radiate that into the world in everything you do.
It is who you are BEING so much more than it is what you are doing or not doing.
So how do you begin to move closer to the “hot” you really want to be feeling?
Here are 3 tips to get you moving in the right direction:
Go easy on yourself and your body
Begin to honor yourself by honoring your own wants and needs
Look at simple tweaks you can make that will improve your stress levels
While these may sound simplistic, if you dive in a bit deeper with each one, you will see there is much benefit to be had. And that translates to looking and feeling better - quickly.
Today we will focus on #1 and next week we will dive more deeply into #2.
Go easy on yourself and your body
It is understandable to feel frustrated with your body when it feels like it is completely out of control, unpredictable, and generally misbehaving.
But when you feel like you are at war with your own body, the stress you produce as a result works against the exact outcomes you are hoping to create.
Battling your body ends up contributing to your expanding waistline, struggles with sleep, foggy brain, more frequent hot flashes, and feeling so frustrated by it all that you end up taking it out on your poor, unsuspecting partner.
Instead of feeling hot, you end up feeling more like a hot mess.
You can start to turn this around by making a different choice.
When you decide to let go of the struggle, the battle with your body, you also let go of all of the stress and angst the battle causes.
And less stress translates to shrinking waistlines, deeper more restful sleep, better focus and mood, and yes, even fewer hot flashes.
Plus, your partner or spouse no longer has to suffer as an innocent bystander.
So take a deep breath, lay down your arms, and decide to surrender the battle with your body.
How do you do this?
Start by noticing your self-talk - does it sound more like you’re talking to a bitter enemy than a close friend?
If you wouldn’t talk to your best friend that way, don’t talk to yourself that way either.
Of course, this sounds simple, but if you truly commit to it and work to shift your self-talk in a more positive direction, your health will benefit.
Why not have some fun with it?
Once you get more used to talking to yourself in a more loving, friend-like way, you can take it a step further - wink at yourself in the mirror, blow yourself a kiss, and re-connect to that fun, frisky part of yourself - this will do wonders for lifting your ability to enjoy your day-to-day.
And you will be on your way back to your truly HOT self.
Want to learn more about other ways you can redefine and reclaim feeling hot for yourself?